Mistress got a hold of us and turned us into everything we never knew we always wanted…
I think this image is a perfect summary of my incredible time here on
the kinky side of Tumblr. Made a lot of great friends, fell in love,
discovered more about myself than I ever thought possible, accidentally
but proudly became an advocate and an ally, and learned that I love to
crossdress almost as much as my Doll loves being a puppy.
They call us the weird and dangerous ones despite the fact that we’re upfront and honest about what turns us on. The same ones who shame us only resent us because they’re too scared to be honest with themselves about on their own turn-ons. They’ll hide them all away like skeletons in a closet until their frustrations burst out and hurt someone innocent. The media will talk about it, their families will say “We never knew he was a pervert!”, and nobody will learn a thing. The female-presenting nipple will always be more evil than the rapist or the nazi.
They say they’re doing it to protect their users, the same way FOSTA was passed to combat online trafficking. While trafficking is a horrifying epidemic that the government has needed to address for well over a decade now, this “one size fits all” solution is just as naive and stupid as Tumblr thinking they can combat porn bots by erasing any sign of adult content on their site. If our government truly cared about the well-being of trafficking victims and survivors as much as they claim to, then Cyntoia Brown would be a free woman right now.
Sex censorship is an epidemic, and Tumblr taught me that our society’s (and government’s, and especially Silicone Valley’s) idea of sex is very, very large. Everything from body positivity (especially for women), sex education, anything to do with LGBT, self-expression, art, dance, music, poetry, film…it’s all “lesser than”. It’s “other”. It’s immediately condemned, looked over, dismissed, because it doesn’t fit into the peg that our culture allows. Just…because.
We’re the undesirables. The ones nobody checks up on, swept under society’s rug, the kind of people Jack the Ripper would’ve killed knowing nobody would bat an eye. We like hard sex, violent sex, consensual nonconsent, erotic hypnosis, bondage, breath play, anal, incest roleplaying, partner swapping, crossdressing, polyamory, guy-on-guy, girl-on-girl, and everything in between.
But we’re also poets, writers, artists, comedians, scientists, educators, engineers, nerds, athletes, lovers, families, and friends. That’s something the people who shame us can never take away from us, and something they’ll never get to experience for themselves. I look at the men and women in power who spend their nights dreaming of wiping us off the face of the earth, and while there’s frustration and rage building up inside, there’s a tidal wave of pity I feel toward them, as well. To be so wrong, to repress their own curiosities for no real reasons, to knowingly and proudly deny themselves the pleasures that we get to experience through our own sense of honestly and truthfulness…it’s a fucking pity.
Tumblr - and probably every single one of you reading this, in your own ways - helped me accept and be damned fucking proud of the fact that I’m an Undesirable. It gave me something concrete to be a part of, to stand for, to fight for, as well as introducing me to an entire army of brilliant people who I get to stand beside while doing so. The odds are not on our side, and the fight is definitely not tipping in our favor any time soon. But until then, I’m really excited to celebrate every tiny victory with you guys. Away from Tumblr.



