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- It was just sort of
thing where, you know,

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all my friends were like,
lets go do recruitment,

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and I was like, okay!

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(laughs)

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(lighthearted music)

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- Initially, I actually didn't
want to join a sorority.

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I've had trouble keeping girlfriends

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just as platonic friends.

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- I grew up with sisters and brothers

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and I wanted to find something that was

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that kind of community.

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- I guess I was out when I joined, yeah,

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I don't think I was ever
like, particularly closeted

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cuz I was lucky enough
to go to a high school

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that was pretty accepting.

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- I was not out about my sexuality,

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but I've always been open
about sex in general.

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- Before I went to my specific sorority's

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open house and rush, I
went to other ones where

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there was girly and one
way of kind of living

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and I was like, that's
not me, I need a spectrum.

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- Going into the rush process

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it wasn't a huge concern of
mine, because I kinda figured

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if people aren't going to
accept me for who I am,

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then I don't wanna be a
part of your sorority.

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(laughs)

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- I knew one girl, she
was out, in my society

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but that doesn't mean that
people won't talk about you

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behind closed doors just
because they're open

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and accepting in the moment.

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So, it does kinda scare me sometimes.

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You don't know what kinda
situations you're gonna walk into.

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- One of the first people in the sorority

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that I came out to was
one of my close friends.

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It was just like, wow, okay.

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Had all these questions and she was like,

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so, how does that work? How does sex work?

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- I remember being in this moment,

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and it was part of when we
were playing 10 fingers,

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and someone asked, oh, has anybody

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ever done something with a
girl, and me and this other girl

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put our fingers down at the same time,

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and I was like, wait, what, you?

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And it made us so close
and we found something

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where we're like, connected on

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and its something crazy
and cool and unexpected.

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- We have a particularly
high volume of LGBT members.

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I don't know if it's because
my sorority just tends to

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foster that whole be
yourself, acceptance vibe.

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- It's not really about what people say,

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it's how you put yourself out there.

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And I'm gonna put myself out there strong,

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and this is who I am

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and I'm not gonna take shit from no one.

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- I mean, my sorority has definitely had

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sisters date each other before

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and its not a big deal at all, in fact,

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we had a couple sisters who
graduated a few years ago

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who were like the power
couple of our Sorority.

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And they dated for like three years

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and they're still together,

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and they're like beautiful
and everyone loves them.

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I definitely do find it
a little bit ridiculous

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when people fear bisexuals or
fear lesbians in sororities

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because I'm like, no offense,
but just cuz we're gay

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doesn't mean we don't have standards.

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(laughs)

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- I think that being
LGBT, in my case bisexual,

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in this society is just
another fact of life.

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I'm gonna be this year's pledge mistress.

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In some ways I'm a little bit hesitant.

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Like, what if some of
these girls wanna join

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but they're not comfortable
with me being openly out

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and bisexual, but at the same time,

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they need to know what they're
getting into and I'm proud.

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And I'm proud to be in a society

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and I'm also proud to be
part of this LGBT community.

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- So, if you wanna be a
part of it, I say do it.

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- I'm, couldn't be happier
with the choices I've made

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and the people I've grown close to.

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- Honestly, your safety
and your mental health

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and your happiness comes first.

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So, make sure you're in a safe situation

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and leave if they try to haze you.

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(laughs)

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- Your lifestyle and the people you love

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should never hold you back on something,

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on anything in the world.

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And especially something

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that's supposed to give you family.

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(lighthearted guitar music)