WEBVTT Kind: captions Language: en 00:00:00.145 --> 00:00:02.235 - I know like three woman that have kept their last name. 00:00:02.235 --> 00:00:04.081 Beyonce, is Beyonce Knowles-Carter now. 00:00:04.081 --> 00:00:05.568 She's not Beyonce Carter, 00:00:05.568 --> 00:00:09.044 so I think the trend is already starting to change. 00:00:10.536 --> 00:00:15.047 (upbeat music) 00:00:25.292 --> 00:00:26.987 - I think there is a power dynamic that exists 00:00:26.987 --> 00:00:29.518 when one person takes on the other person's name. 00:00:29.518 --> 00:00:30.714 - For you to take someone else's last name 00:00:30.714 --> 00:00:32.269 shows a huge commitment to that person. 00:00:32.269 --> 00:00:33.232 - I'm a traditionalist. 00:00:33.232 --> 00:00:35.414 I would take my husband's last name. 00:00:35.414 --> 00:00:37.158 - The prospect of coming up with a name together 00:00:37.158 --> 00:00:38.075 is really cool. 00:00:38.075 --> 00:00:39.897 It's creating an identity together is really neat. 00:00:39.897 --> 00:00:41.743 - I like hyphenating, I know it's like weird. 00:00:41.743 --> 00:00:42.660 - I love my last. 00:00:42.660 --> 00:00:44.205 If I were to marry a man or a woman, 00:00:44.205 --> 00:00:45.366 I would keep my last name. 00:00:45.366 --> 00:00:50.366 (upbeat music) 00:01:01.538 --> 00:01:02.850 - Please imagine the following. 00:01:02.850 --> 00:01:04.545 - You have been invited by an old friend 00:01:04.545 --> 00:01:06.391 to an outdoor potluck picnic in the park. 00:01:06.391 --> 00:01:08.295 - When you arrive you say hello to your friend. 00:01:08.295 --> 00:01:09.662 - Add the doughnuts you brought 00:01:09.662 --> 00:01:10.582 to the large array of food. 00:01:10.582 --> 00:01:12.636 - And then settle down on a big blanket 00:01:12.636 --> 00:01:13.810 to eat and hang out. 00:01:13.810 --> 00:01:14.700 - As soon as you sit down, 00:01:14.700 --> 00:01:16.492 you meet a couple who is sitting next to you. 00:01:16.492 --> 00:01:20.130 (upbeat music) 00:01:20.130 --> 00:01:22.793 - Michael Robertson and his wife Carla Robertson. 00:01:24.373 --> 00:01:26.707 - Michael Robertson and his wife Carla Williams, 00:01:26.707 --> 00:01:28.927 she kept her last name when they got married. 00:01:28.927 --> 00:01:30.749 (upbeat music) 00:01:30.749 --> 00:01:32.085 - They've been together for three years 00:01:32.085 --> 00:01:33.037 and married for one. 00:01:33.037 --> 00:01:35.093 - As you chat with them you learn more about their lives. 00:01:35.093 --> 00:01:37.089 - Michael tells you about the epic honeymoon they took. 00:01:37.089 --> 00:01:39.039 - Carla shows you pictures of their two dogs. 00:01:39.039 --> 00:01:40.537 - Michael explains his job to you. 00:01:40.537 --> 00:01:42.379 - Carla shares stories from their experience 00:01:42.379 --> 00:01:44.821 volunteering for local events. 00:01:44.821 --> 00:01:49.668 (Upbeat music) 00:01:50.477 --> 00:01:53.630 - So Carla Robertson, caring I gave her a six. 00:01:53.630 --> 00:01:55.363 - Intelligent, four. 00:01:55.363 --> 00:01:56.617 Ambitious, three. 00:01:56.617 --> 00:01:58.567 - Caring, I put five. 00:01:58.567 --> 00:02:00.459 Carla was the one that showed pictures of their dogs. 00:02:00.459 --> 00:02:02.700 To me it came off more like she was the caring one. 00:02:02.700 --> 00:02:04.569 - Assertive, I put three. 00:02:04.569 --> 00:02:06.193 - Independent, three. 00:02:06.193 --> 00:02:07.495 - Quiet, four. 00:02:07.495 --> 00:02:11.199 (upbeat music) 00:02:11.199 --> 00:02:13.753 - List three jobs you think Carla Robertson might have. 00:02:13.753 --> 00:02:15.657 I originally put down unemployed, 00:02:15.657 --> 00:02:17.082 because she talked about volunteer work. 00:02:17.082 --> 00:02:18.371 - The first thing I said was a nurse, 00:02:18.371 --> 00:02:21.087 because I said over her that she was really caring. 00:02:21.087 --> 00:02:22.852 - HR, receptionist. 00:02:22.852 --> 00:02:24.094 - And then interior design. 00:02:24.094 --> 00:02:27.251 I don't know, she seemed artistic, maybe, too. 00:02:27.251 --> 00:02:29.145 - How much money would you estimate 00:02:29.145 --> 00:02:30.596 Carla Robertson makes per year? 00:02:30.596 --> 00:02:32.837 $0 to $40K per year. 00:02:32.837 --> 00:02:34.775 - I put $70,000. 00:02:34.775 --> 00:02:36.180 - $55,000. 00:02:36.180 --> 00:02:38.676 (upbeat music) 00:02:38.676 --> 00:02:41.148 - Carla Williams intelligent, six. 00:02:41.148 --> 00:02:42.357 Ambitious, six. 00:02:42.357 --> 00:02:44.419 - Ambitious, five. 00:02:44.419 --> 00:02:45.956 - Ambitious, six. 00:02:45.956 --> 00:02:48.055 - Assertive, six. 00:02:48.055 --> 00:02:49.088 - Assertive, six. 00:02:49.088 --> 00:02:50.298 Independent, six. 00:02:50.298 --> 00:02:51.946 - Confident, six. 00:02:51.946 --> 00:02:52.945 Independent, six. 00:02:52.945 --> 00:02:54.721 You got to be pretty confident and independant 00:02:54.721 --> 00:02:57.728 to want to keep her name, 00:02:57.728 --> 00:02:59.829 so go in the face of societal norm that way. 00:02:59.829 --> 00:03:01.246 - Independent, six. 00:03:01.246 --> 00:03:03.092 Quiet, one. 00:03:03.092 --> 00:03:06.318 - List three jobs you think Carla Williams might have. 00:03:06.318 --> 00:03:07.771 - I feel like they're a professional couple. 00:03:07.771 --> 00:03:09.289 - I said CEO. 00:03:09.289 --> 00:03:11.137 She just seems like she's just about her business, 00:03:11.137 --> 00:03:12.763 but yet she's still a loving wife, 00:03:12.763 --> 00:03:14.853 and you can have both worlds. 00:03:14.853 --> 00:03:17.570 - Business woman, politics, or professor. 00:03:17.570 --> 00:03:18.475 - Engineer. 00:03:18.475 --> 00:03:19.471 - Involved in advertising. 00:03:19.471 --> 00:03:21.074 - Or an accountant. 00:03:21.074 --> 00:03:22.362 - Or a professor. 00:03:22.362 --> 00:03:24.127 - How much money would you estimate Carla Williams 00:03:24.127 --> 00:03:25.323 makes per year. 00:03:25.323 --> 00:03:26.310 $70K. 00:03:26.310 --> 00:03:27.760 - $80,000 per year. 00:03:27.760 --> 00:03:30.163 - $75,000, $75K. 00:03:30.163 --> 00:03:34.431 (upbeat music) 00:04:08.493 --> 00:04:11.024 - Like our subconscious perception of things 00:04:11.024 --> 00:04:13.044 are so crazy and we don't even realize 00:04:13.044 --> 00:04:15.111 that we're making these judgments on people. 00:04:15.111 --> 00:04:17.654 - Whenever I hear of the wife taking the husband's name, 00:04:17.654 --> 00:04:19.511 or the wife keeping her name, 00:04:19.511 --> 00:04:21.729 or the husband taking the wife's name, 00:04:21.729 --> 00:04:24.550 I do instantly make assumptions as to who 00:04:24.550 --> 00:04:26.500 would be wearing the pants in the relationship. 00:04:26.500 --> 00:04:27.893 - So the fact that these two characters 00:04:27.893 --> 00:04:30.099 kept their last name was really cool, 00:04:30.099 --> 00:04:31.551 because the marriage didn't define them. 00:04:31.551 --> 00:04:32.851 They were still their own individuals, 00:04:32.851 --> 00:04:34.382 they were just in it together. 00:04:34.382 --> 00:04:35.707 - I think it's cool, if my wife wanted to 00:04:35.707 --> 00:04:36.485 keep her last name. 00:04:36.485 --> 00:04:37.387 I think it would be awesome. 00:04:37.387 --> 00:04:39.480 - If my sister were to keep her last name, 00:04:39.480 --> 00:04:40.723 I'd be like, "You go girl." 00:04:40.723 --> 00:04:42.336 - When I meet a woman who's kept her last name, 00:04:42.336 --> 00:04:45.413 I just assume that she's just a boss. 00:04:45.413 --> 00:04:46.980 - I like to think of myself as 00:04:46.980 --> 00:04:47.990 like a strong independent lady. 00:04:47.990 --> 00:04:50.913 And I'm not taking anybody's last name but my own. 00:04:50.913 --> 00:04:52.240 - I don't think you should be judged 00:04:52.240 --> 00:04:54.492 by if you change your last name 00:04:54.492 --> 00:04:56.350 to someone else's last name. 00:04:56.350 --> 00:04:57.417 - It's not your life. 00:04:57.417 --> 00:04:58.881 It's somebody else's life 00:04:58.881 --> 00:05:00.785 If you just be your baddass selves, 00:05:00.785 --> 00:05:02.666 and it's okay if you're Mr. Robertson 00:05:02.666 --> 00:05:05.440 or a Mrs. Jones, whoever. 00:05:05.440 --> 00:05:07.722 You do you.