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- Everyone I knew, I felt like had

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the most wonderful experience
after they had their baby

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but I didn't know how
to say I'm freaking out.

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- Postpartum depression to me is

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the disconnect you have with your baby.

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- An overwhelming, uncontrollable

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sense of anxiety.

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- One of many mental illnesses

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that can affect mothers.

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- When I got pregnant, I
was instantly in a bad mood.

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In addition to that, I had fibroids,

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which are tumors that grow in your uterus

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and it was really scary.

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- I knew I had postpartum depression

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the first time when I went to go

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and pump my breast milk at work

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and I just broke down crying.

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- I actually remember
saying to my husband,

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"You know, people kept
saying I'd be so emotional

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"and I feel fine," and the reality

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of the situation was that I was
completely emotionally numb.

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- Right after I had the baby, it was

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my husband's birthday
so I baked him a cake

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and I invited people over.

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And people were like,
"What are you doing?"

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But I felt like it was my duty

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to celebrate his
birthday, to try to nurse,

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and then come back and
put on a happy face.

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- I believed that every parent around me

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knew what they were
doing and that I was this

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devastating failure.

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- When my son was four months old,

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and I remember breast feeding him

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but he wouldn't stop crying

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and I got face to face with him

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and I screamed, "Stop crying."

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That was probably the moment I realized

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I needed help.

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- It's a really defeating feeling,

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knowing that this is something

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you have no control over.

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- I thought after that moment,

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"I just need to hold my baby.

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"I don't ever want this to happen again

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"and something has to change."

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- Being a stay at home
mom was really isolating

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but I felt like I kind of came out of it

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when I started exercising and
hanging out with other moms.

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- I started feeling better when I could

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wake up to my baby every morning

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and he just makes everything better

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and everything worthwhile.

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- To all the mothers going through this,

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surround yourself with people who get it

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because you're not alone.

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- I know there's so
much pressure right now

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to be like a perfect mom.

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You have to be honest,
you have to let people in

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and let them know what
you're going through.

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- If you are out there
and you are struggling,

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I want you to know that
it is going to get better.

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- I'm a mother and I'm vulnerable

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but I am capable.

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- And I am fighting every day.

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- And I'm doing the best that I can.

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- And struggling with
postpartum depression

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didn't make me weak but
becoming victorious over it,

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that's what made me strong.

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- We have lost way too many moms

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so please stay with us.

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Find yourself a community
and keep fighting.

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("There's Still Time")