WEBVTT Kind: captions Language: en 00:00:00.122 --> 00:00:01.585 - I'm gonna make you wait 00:00:01.585 --> 00:00:03.164 and I'm gonna make you wait. 00:00:03.164 --> 00:00:06.301 Because this is a lot to handle all at once. 00:00:06.301 --> 00:00:07.552 - Sex on the first date, 00:00:07.552 --> 00:00:08.713 is that cool? 00:00:08.713 --> 00:00:11.343 Like is it, is it cool? 00:00:11.343 --> 00:00:12.436 It's debatable. 00:00:17.496 --> 00:00:19.934 - I am for having sex on the first date. 00:00:19.934 --> 00:00:22.131 - If the values obtaining a relationship, 00:00:22.131 --> 00:00:24.384 I am against sex on the first date. 00:00:24.384 --> 00:00:27.541 - I'm pro freedom and I'm pro sex on the first date. 00:00:27.541 --> 00:00:29.910 - I am against having sex on the first date. 00:00:29.910 --> 00:00:32.534 - If you're feeling it, I am pro sex on the first date. 00:00:32.534 --> 00:00:35.320 - No, no, no sex on the first date. 00:00:37.890 --> 00:00:39.447 - I think first dates, in general, 00:00:39.447 --> 00:00:40.909 are very performative, but if you 00:00:40.909 --> 00:00:42.767 get to the point where like, you feel comfortable enough 00:00:42.767 --> 00:00:44.415 with that person to have sex with them, 00:00:44.415 --> 00:00:45.520 you should go for it. 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:47.382 - Why build walls for yourself? 00:00:47.382 --> 00:00:49.658 You're on a date, things are going well 00:00:49.658 --> 00:00:53.477 and you engage in healthy, normal sex. 00:00:53.477 --> 00:00:56.991 - Having sex on the first date, it also just nips it right 00:00:56.991 --> 00:00:58.696 in the bud, that whole are we gonna be 00:00:58.696 --> 00:00:59.880 compatible in bed question. 00:00:59.880 --> 00:01:02.181 - Somebody who wants to have sex on the first date should 00:01:02.181 --> 00:01:05.235 do it because they'll find out that they're incompatible. 00:01:05.235 --> 00:01:07.325 Like, I don't think sexual tension just dissapates 00:01:07.325 --> 00:01:08.648 after you have sex for the first time. 00:01:08.648 --> 00:01:10.250 - I think it does. 00:01:10.250 --> 00:01:12.456 I think if you are a heterosexual woman 00:01:12.456 --> 00:01:13.779 and you are interested in a guy, 00:01:13.779 --> 00:01:15.683 you should not have sex with him on a first date. 00:01:15.683 --> 00:01:17.193 - What makes me really sad about that, 00:01:17.193 --> 00:01:18.702 is that it's operating under the assumption, 00:01:18.702 --> 00:01:20.420 like, don't give the boy what he wants 00:01:20.420 --> 00:01:22.626 because the boy is terrible and if he gets what he wants 00:01:22.626 --> 00:01:23.810 he won't want you anymore. 00:01:23.810 --> 00:01:25.459 - I don't think you should go into a first date 00:01:25.459 --> 00:01:27.990 thinking you're gonna hook up with this person tonight. 00:01:27.990 --> 00:01:30.172 I would say to be open to it. 00:01:30.172 --> 00:01:31.914 - If you're feeling it with someone 00:01:31.914 --> 00:01:33.400 and you're not going to have sex with them 00:01:33.400 --> 00:01:35.489 on the first date just because it's the first date, 00:01:35.489 --> 00:01:36.929 you know, I feel like that's a limitation. 00:01:36.929 --> 00:01:37.788 Life's too short. 00:01:37.788 --> 00:01:40.151 That person could be hit by a bus the next day. 00:01:42.919 --> 00:01:44.289 - When you watch a movie 00:01:44.289 --> 00:01:46.774 and you hear that there's a really great scene 00:01:46.774 --> 00:01:48.051 later on in the movie, 00:01:48.051 --> 00:01:50.744 you don't skip all the setup and the character development. 00:01:50.744 --> 00:01:52.532 Who just jumps into the scene select, 00:01:52.532 --> 00:01:54.390 goes to the cool scene, watches it 00:01:54.390 --> 00:01:55.690 and then goes back to the beginning? 00:01:55.690 --> 00:01:56.711 - Is it a sex scene? 00:01:56.711 --> 00:01:58.580 'Cause I'll jump ahead. 00:01:58.580 --> 00:02:00.322 - It's a first date, have a date. 00:02:00.322 --> 00:02:01.808 Kiss a little bit. 00:02:01.808 --> 00:02:04.246 Next time, you'll do the sex part of the relationship. 00:02:04.246 --> 00:02:07.821 - I like just building up that like, excitement for it. 00:02:07.821 --> 00:02:09.006 - You're looking for a relationship, 00:02:09.006 --> 00:02:10.585 you're gonna be in a relationship, 00:02:10.585 --> 00:02:11.583 so slow down. 00:02:11.583 --> 00:02:13.557 - Once you like, grow a relationship with someone, 00:02:13.557 --> 00:02:14.671 the sex is better. 00:02:14.671 --> 00:02:17.527 - Yeah, so it could just get better and better and better. 00:02:17.527 --> 00:02:19.524 All because you meaningless sex with someone one day 00:02:19.524 --> 00:02:22.124 doesn't mean it can't be meaningful, even better the next. 00:02:22.124 --> 00:02:23.610 - You can't get to know someone 00:02:23.610 --> 00:02:26.048 sharing an entree at Olive Garden. 00:02:26.048 --> 00:02:27.581 If you're making that decision after two hours 00:02:27.581 --> 00:02:30.581 then you're just telling them, I just think you're hot. 00:02:30.581 --> 00:02:32.712 Let's essentially masturbate together. 00:02:35.805 --> 00:02:39.915 Great sex isn't just about having a physical connection. 00:02:39.915 --> 00:02:43.305 It's about intimacy and real knowledge 00:02:43.305 --> 00:02:45.278 of the other person, of their personality. 00:02:45.278 --> 00:02:46.881 - Just let it all go, just two animals. 00:02:46.881 --> 00:02:48.970 Just letting those instincts overtake you. 00:02:48.970 --> 00:02:50.294 - Some people can use their intellect 00:02:50.294 --> 00:02:51.989 to overpower their human nature, 00:02:51.989 --> 00:02:55.007 but you can't deny that human nature exists. 00:02:55.007 --> 00:02:58.908 - I think doing what feels right is typically an okay thing. 00:02:58.908 --> 00:03:00.510 Especially when it comes to first dates. 00:03:00.510 --> 00:03:01.555 They're pretty performative. 00:03:01.555 --> 00:03:03.366 - You're in control of whether you do or not. 00:03:03.366 --> 00:03:05.432 So, at the end of the day, if you do have your power, 00:03:05.432 --> 00:03:06.802 it doesn't make you easy. 00:03:06.802 --> 00:03:09.891 - I don't think anybody deserves me all in one night. 00:03:09.891 --> 00:03:11.260 To be honest with you. 00:03:11.260 --> 00:03:12.979 - Well, I 100 percent believe that. 00:03:12.979 --> 00:03:14.836 You're someone who like, 00:03:14.836 --> 00:03:16.174 no one could deserve you ever. 00:03:21.684 --> 00:03:22.732 - These are called nudes. 00:03:22.732 --> 00:03:23.986 - Can we take some of those home? 00:03:23.986 --> 00:03:25.402 - Yeah, the guy who doesn't want 00:03:25.402 --> 00:03:27.440 to have sex on the first date needs condoms.