WEBVTT Kind: captions Language: en 00:00:00.491 --> 00:00:04.324 - Having trans friends is like having friends. 00:00:09.716 --> 00:00:10.666 - You were shaking. 00:00:10.666 --> 00:00:11.499 - I was shaking. 00:00:11.499 --> 00:00:12.332 I was sweating. 00:00:12.332 --> 00:00:13.373 - You were shaking at the table, 00:00:13.373 --> 00:00:16.325 and then I knew, I was like oh yeah, here we go. 00:00:16.325 --> 00:00:17.684 - And then I just came out and told you. 00:00:17.684 --> 00:00:18.517 - She's not turning back. 00:00:18.517 --> 00:00:19.350 - Yeah. 00:00:19.350 --> 00:00:20.183 - I got her, I got here. 00:00:20.183 --> 00:00:22.346 - I've seen a confidence come out of you 00:00:22.346 --> 00:00:24.690 that I didn't see in the beginning. 00:00:24.690 --> 00:00:27.272 This just brought you out to a whole new level. 00:00:27.272 --> 00:00:28.983 - I think so, too. (laughs) 00:00:28.983 --> 00:00:29.969 - (laughs) 00:00:29.969 --> 00:00:32.949 - My impression of you was you're tall, skinny, 00:00:32.949 --> 00:00:34.080 and pretty. 00:00:34.080 --> 00:00:34.913 - I just 00:00:34.913 --> 00:00:35.746 - You still haven't told me, hey. 00:00:35.746 --> 00:00:36.579 - Yeah, I haven't even told you 'til today. 00:00:36.579 --> 00:00:37.412 - 'Til right now. 00:00:37.412 --> 00:00:38.245 Let's do it right now. 00:00:38.245 --> 00:00:39.078 Ready? 00:00:39.078 --> 00:00:39.911 - Okay, let's go. 00:00:39.911 --> 00:00:40.744 - Catherine. 00:00:40.744 --> 00:00:41.577 - Hey. 00:00:41.577 --> 00:00:42.957 - I'm a woman of trans experience. 00:00:42.957 --> 00:00:43.859 - That's beautiful. 00:00:43.859 --> 00:00:46.462 You make me want to cry. 00:00:46.462 --> 00:00:47.811 - You, I don't know if I should say this, 00:00:47.811 --> 00:00:49.119 but you were a different name at the time. 00:00:49.119 --> 00:00:50.216 - I did have a different name at the time. 00:00:50.216 --> 00:00:51.049 - Which I thought was awesome, 00:00:51.049 --> 00:00:53.630 but I also think that your name is equally awesome. 00:00:53.630 --> 00:00:55.095 - I don't think it changes what I think 00:00:55.095 --> 00:00:55.928 about you as a friend. 00:00:55.928 --> 00:00:58.157 I think our relationship is built on the moments 00:00:58.157 --> 00:00:59.339 we've had together. 00:00:59.339 --> 00:01:01.082 - So, what do you feel is the difference 00:01:01.082 --> 00:01:03.685 having me as a friend being trans 00:01:03.685 --> 00:01:06.202 versus when you're with you cis friends? 00:01:06.202 --> 00:01:07.704 - When you were transitioning, 00:01:07.704 --> 00:01:09.946 I felt a little more protective. 00:01:09.946 --> 00:01:11.559 For a long time now, you've just been 00:01:11.559 --> 00:01:13.012 like one of my girlfriends. 00:01:13.012 --> 00:01:14.713 - I want you guys to see me as me, 00:01:14.713 --> 00:01:17.293 and you still treated me like on of your girlfriends. 00:01:17.293 --> 00:01:18.776 - You are (laughs). 00:01:18.776 --> 00:01:20.493 - And talked about boy issues. 00:01:20.493 --> 00:01:21.326 - Yeah. 00:01:21.326 --> 00:01:22.269 - And stuff like that. 00:01:22.269 --> 00:01:23.926 - It was too many boy issues (laughs). 00:01:23.926 --> 00:01:25.593 - Were you scared that I would get attacked 00:01:25.593 --> 00:01:27.779 in the men's restroom when I was still using it? 00:01:27.779 --> 00:01:29.514 - There was just a point where I rather you 00:01:29.514 --> 00:01:31.913 just come in the same restroom as me. 00:01:31.913 --> 00:01:33.994 - I enter any men's room going, 00:01:33.994 --> 00:01:35.795 oh please, I hope nobody notices 00:01:35.795 --> 00:01:36.840 that I'm going into the stall 00:01:36.840 --> 00:01:39.432 and realizes that I might not be cis gender. 00:01:39.432 --> 00:01:41.765 - I never saw us here today, 00:01:42.761 --> 00:01:43.959 and so I kind of. 00:01:43.959 --> 00:01:44.792 - Really? 00:01:44.792 --> 00:01:45.625 What did you see? 00:01:45.625 --> 00:01:47.337 Honestly, I didn't even think I'd live this long. 00:01:47.337 --> 00:01:48.170 - Really? 00:01:48.170 --> 00:01:49.011 - Yeah. 00:01:49.011 --> 00:01:50.962 - See, that's crazy. 00:01:50.962 --> 00:01:53.416 - I hope you don't lose faith in humanity. 00:01:53.416 --> 00:01:56.244 Somehow, it will change, 00:01:56.244 --> 00:01:59.284 and keep being your fabulous self 00:01:59.284 --> 00:02:02.080 because girls like me who look up to you 00:02:02.080 --> 00:02:05.220 for their definition of what can be sexy. 00:02:05.220 --> 00:02:09.547 - You're sexy too, though (laughs). 00:02:09.547 --> 00:02:11.432 - I don't even know if I'd have had the guts to transition 00:02:11.432 --> 00:02:13.649 if it wasn't for people like you so early on 00:02:13.649 --> 00:02:18.416 who helped and reinforced that I am worthy of being loved. 00:02:18.416 --> 00:02:20.325 - In the beginning, you were sort of this 00:02:20.325 --> 00:02:22.585 masculine figure in my life. 00:02:22.585 --> 00:02:23.820 That's something that I always appreciated 00:02:23.820 --> 00:02:27.250 'cause you were just there to be like my brother. 00:02:27.250 --> 00:02:28.962 - It's what you do for family. 00:02:28.962 --> 00:02:31.223 - You kind of introduced me to a world 00:02:31.223 --> 00:02:32.904 and a culture that I wasn't aware of before. 00:02:32.904 --> 00:02:35.023 I think that I've become a more richer 00:02:35.023 --> 00:02:36.753 and a richer person. 00:02:36.753 --> 00:02:37.586 Yeah. 00:02:37.586 --> 00:02:38.419 - Awesome. 00:02:38.419 --> 00:02:39.252 - Right? 00:02:39.252 --> 00:02:40.871 - Definitely pushes me to want to be like, 00:02:40.871 --> 00:02:42.515 be the woman, I guess, that I want to be. 00:02:42.515 --> 00:02:43.348 - Ahh! 00:02:43.348 --> 00:02:44.181 - Through you (laughs). 00:02:44.181 --> 00:02:45.014 Is that weird? 00:02:45.014 --> 00:02:45.847 Yeah. 00:02:45.847 --> 00:02:46.680 - That's amazing. 00:02:46.680 --> 00:02:47.629 - It's true, it's true. 00:02:47.629 --> 00:02:48.479 - That's amazing. 00:02:48.479 --> 00:02:49.312 - It's true 00:02:49.312 --> 00:02:50.145 - I love you. 00:02:50.145 --> 00:02:50.978 - I love you, mama, come on. 00:02:50.978 --> 00:02:51.811 - Thank you. 00:02:51.811 --> 00:02:52.644 - Thank you for sharing. 00:02:52.644 --> 00:02:53.477 - Can we hug now? 00:02:53.477 --> 00:02:54.310 - Yes. 00:02:54.310 --> 00:02:55.143 - Come here. 00:02:55.143 --> 00:02:55.976 - Yeah. 00:02:55.976 --> 00:02:57.083 - I love you, pretty. 00:02:57.083 --> 00:02:58.516 - The only really upsetting thing 00:02:58.516 --> 00:02:59.516 about having trans friends, I will say, 00:02:59.516 --> 00:03:00.349 and I thought about this as well 00:03:00.349 --> 00:03:02.515 is they are all far more attractive that I am, 00:03:02.515 --> 00:03:04.848 and it's really infuriating.